When I was in undergraduate school, there was a guy on campus, who every Friday for all four years he was there, would carry red balloons around with him and greet everyone he met with "Happy Friday." I got to know him and he was so inspiring. Before college he had been in a severely bad car accident that resulted in multiple physical and cognitive disabilities. Even though it took away his talents as an athlete and set him back drastically physically and mentally, he was just so positive about life. And part of that positivity was recognizing that every Friday is a celebration. He had made it one more week!
Although he and I have lost touch, and I don't even remember his name, every Friday I think of him.
Every Friday his positive spirit still reminds me that no matter what is going on in life at the moment, it is still a celebration to have made it through one more week.
I think he has forever changed my life and my outlook.
This Friday. I am celebrating these things that make me happy:
- Its Veteran's Day. This doesn't make me happy in the usual sense, but it makes me grateful. And I believe that gratitude goes above and beyond happiness. In fact, I don't think you can be truly happy without being grateful.
- New love. I love seeing my friends who have just gotten married or just had a baby. New love is an instant reminder of that feeling, and then you look over to your partner that you've been with for years, and you feel all gushy and butterfly like. And all of a sudden your reminded that each day, no matter how long you've been together, there is always the choice to fall into new love with your partner all over again.
- Also Old Love. I love seeing old couples that are obviously so happy and in love together after decades. It is inspiring. It is sweet. We all know there are days where liking our partners or being likable to our partners is difficult. To know that that is just a single day and not worth ruining the years or even decades to come... plus old couples are just so freakin' cute!
- Dance parties when you are stuck in traffic. It makes me giggle. I don't care that other drivers think I'm crazy... I'm having a lot more fun than they are as they yell miserably at the car in front of them.
- Audio books. I now have clients that are 130 miles away from each other. With the intense therapy I offer, I see my families a ton... so I am in the car a ton. And audio books make that fun!
- Getting unexpected mail from a friend just because she knows that my illnesses have been giving me a really hard time lately. It is pretty lovely when people reach out. I don't think anyone realizes how even the littlest thought of support can mean. Its huge.
- Paying it forward. I have a project in mind that combines a bit of #1, #2, and #6. Please see the bottom of this post.
- Time with friends. Tomorrow I am hosting the second monthly art making party. It will be really nice to see a friend I haven't seen since graduation who is coming. Also I love making new friends and will be glad to see the ones that were at the last art making party in October, and to see some new ones too.
- Art making time. Like I said, art making party! whoo-hoo!!!
- Believe. Whether it is believe in a spiritual being, believe in magic, believe in you... beliefs are so important, so worth it, and definitely help with the happiness factor.
Something I believe in is the power of community, the power of a single act of random kindness and love.
My young cousin, Meghan, just graduated from school and married her high school sweetheart, Jack, in the Summer. As soon as they were married, they moved from the furthest you could be on the East Coast of the States to the furthest you could be on the West Coast of the States, where they knew no one. All because her sweet new Marine husband was stationed there. And now he is in Afghanistan, where he will remain over the holidays. Meghan is very brave and very upbeat, but she doesn't have the support that she would have if she and Jack had been with their squadron for a while first, and she doesn't know anyone else in California other than the co-workers at the job she just got. And Jack is serving his country for the first time - completely new territory both actually and metaphorically. I know many friends and family that have gone through this, and they all say the love and support they received was a phenomenal part of getting through it. So this veterans day, I'm asking for your love and support.
Wouldn't it be great to take a moment and just write a little note or make a sweet little piece of art to send to Meghan and/or Jack? Just something little, not anything big, not anything that will take much of your time...
would you do that for me? for them?
if you are game for it, please send the letter/art/whatever to me (I'll send them all as carepackages) so that I can surprise Meghan and Jack by forwarding them on... on the envelope just say if it is for Meghan or Jack, so it gets to the right half of the couple.
in care of:
423 South Dover Avenue
You'd be so awesome if you did!